Oct 7, 2005
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Who's zoomin' who?The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention has been busy asking Americans about their sex lives.

In the just-released study "Sexual Behavior and Selected Health Measures: Men and Women 15-44 Years of Age, United States, 2002," researchers quizzed 12,571 Americans face-to-face.

Here's what they found, as summarized by the CDC itself:

"Three percent of males 15-44 years of age have had oral or anal sex with another male in the last 12 months. Four percent of females had a sexual experience with another female in the last 12 months. The proportion who had same-sex contact in their lifetimes was 6 percent for males and 11 percent for females. About 1 percent of men and 3 percent of women 15-44 years of age have had both male and female sexual partners in the last 12 months.

"In response to a question that asked, 'Do you think of yourself as heterosexual, homosexual, Bisexual, or something else?' 90 percent of men 18-44 years of age responded that they think of themselves as heterosexual, 2.3 percent of men answered homosexual, 1.8 percent Bisexual, 3.9 percent 'something else,' and 1.8 percent did not answer the question. Percents for women were similar.

"Survey participants were asked if they were sexually attracted to males, to females, or to both. Among men 18-44 years of age, 92 percent said they were attracted 'only to females,' and 3.9 percent, 'mostly' to females. Among women, 86 percent said they were attracted only to males, and 10 percent, 'mostly' to males."

Shall we dissect?

o Either there are more women doing the Lesbian thing than men doing the Gay thing, which is unlikely, or, more likely, women are more inclined to acknowledge what they're up to.

o Women are more likely than men to be actively Bisexual. We knew that.

o If you add up the percentages of men who chose something other than "heterosexual" to describe their sexual orientation, you get 9.8 percent, which sounds about right for the percentage of American men having sex with men. Almost 2 percent refused to answer the question and we know what that means. And almost 4 percent - when asked to label themselves "heterosexual, homosexual, Bisexual, or something else" - chose "something else." A small percentage of respondents may have gone with "something else" because they consider themselves Transgender or queer or "on the down-low" or whatever. The rest likely meant, "I am so not telling you I'm Gay."

As for the down-low, the CDC says: "It is noteworthy that 7.3 percent of Hispanic or Latino men, and 7.5 percent of black men, reported that their sexual orientation was 'something else,' and another 3-4 percent of each group did not report an answer to the question."

o You need to add to this 9.8 percent of nonheterosexual men a certain percentage who said they were heterosexual even though they're not. Let's not pretend no one ever lies about their sexuality, most especially in an interview with a government bureaucrat.

o Combining the second and third quoted paragraphs above leads to an interesting conundrum. While 90 percent of men said they're heterosexual, 92 percent said they're attracted only to females. What are the other 2 percent of heterosexual men attracted to?

You can see all the results at It's really long.


I'm writing from Buenos Aires, Argentina, this week. It's 2:52 a.m., and Patricio, Mariano, Álvaro and I are just back from the bear bar, The Titanic Club.

It has a dance floor, and the DJ was on a major classic Gay binge - Gloria Gaynor, Donna Summer, The Village People, Flashdance, Michael Jackson, the Eurythmics, and on and on.

The protocol of the bar was most amusing. You pay five pesos (US$1.72) to enter, and receive a small plastic card that says "Entrada" ("Entrance"). When you buy your first drink, they take the "Entrada" card away from you and give you a different one that says "Salida" ("Exit"), which you must turn over at the door as you leave the bar. Apparently, if you didn't buy a drink and exchange your Entrada card for a Salida card, you are imprisoned in the bar until such time as you agree to buy a drink. The whole process confused me to no end.

Buying a drink wasn't simple either. First you stand in line and pay for your drink and receive a piece of white paper. Then you go stand in another line, re-order your drink, turn over the piece of white paper, and get your drink. In other words, the bartenders don't deal with money. There are separate dudes for that.

Fortunately, the rest of what I've seen of Buenos Aires is nothing like the mindnumbingly arcane protocols of the otherwise cool bear bar.

In fact, I was surprised that B.A. is pretty much totally a First World city. It is, for the most part, indistinguishable from Barcelona or Madrid. With one exception. It's ridiculously cheap (for me, not for Argentines). Things cost one-third to one-fifth of what you'd pay in the U.S. For example, movies are less than $2.00, nice hamburgers are 85 cents, long taxi rides are a couple of bucks. I think I probably exchanged too much money at the airport. The food is very good - and, of course, inexpensive as well.

My initial impressions after six days are that Buenos Aires is hip, happening, modern, dynamic, alive and sophisticated.

The people seem great.

You can drink water from the faucet (always a crucial test).

And you could live here oh-so-nicely on nothing but a Social Security check.

My bud Andrés has uploaded all the pics I've taken so far to his Fotki site, which I've temporarily linked to

I'll be here twelve more days and will have more in the next column. Who knows what strangeness may confront me when I dare to visit a second Gay bar...
"We went to Joan's bedroom. ...Crawford had a gigantic orgasm and shrieked like a maniac. ...Next time I saw Crawford she wanted another round. I told her straight out I didn't much enjoy doing it with a woman. After I turned her down, she became spiteful. An English poet best describes it: hath no rage like love to hatred turned; and hell hath no fury like a woman scorned - most people wrongly credit that to Shakespeare. William Congreve is the author. That's me, Marilyn Monroe, the classical scholar."

-Marilyn Monroe in tapes recorded at her home in 1962 for her psychiatrist, Dr. Ralph Greenson. A transcript was published in the Los Angeles Times on Aug. 5. It was provided by former Los Angeles prosecutor John W. Miner, who was head of the district attorney's medical-legal section when Monroe died. Miner compiled the transcript after Greenson played him the tapes during an interview he conducted as part of the investigation into Monroe's death.

"When I worked with Willie Nelson, who is just about the nicest man I've ever worked with in my life, the sweetest, kindest man, I thought, 'If I'd have been Gay, it would have saved me millions, just because we'd still be happily married.'"

-Actor Burt Reynolds on NBC-TV's The Tonight Show with Jay Leno, July 21.

"Drag for me was a commentary on life. 'You mean I'm not supposed to do this? Well, fuck you.' Then I found out I could make a lot of money doing it."

-RuPaul to syndicated Canadian Gay columnist Richard Burnett, July 21.

"Abortion is not a Gay issue in practice or in principle. In practice, Gay couples are the least likely in the land to produce an unwanted pregnancy. Procreation for Gay couples typically involves months of planning and thousands of dollars in investment, requiring the use of sophisticated reproductive technology or the cooperation of a surrogate parent. 'Oops' babies are simply not a phenomenon of Gay life. Gays thus have less practical need for the option of abortion than do heterosexuals. Yes, a Gay woman could become pregnant through rape or through heterosexual sex. She might then want an abortion. But this no more makes abortion a 'Gay' issue than the fact that Gay people die in plane crashes makes federal aviation safety standards a Gay issue."

-Syndicated Gay-press columnist Dale Carpenter, Aug. 1.

"Screw her! She's useless. ...She makes Gays look weak. Being supportive of her dad isn't a bad thing. But just standing beside him without disagreeing with amendments to the Constitution that prohibit us from getting married and refusing Gay adoptions - that's pathetic. She's guilty by complacency."

-Lesbian comic Suzanne Westenhoefer on Mary Cheney, the daughter of U.S. Vice President Dick Cheney, to the Dallas Voice, July 29.

"During her Lesbian days, I always thought she was very sincere. We get very sensitive about Lesbians in the public eye. But the truth is, women who become Lesbians for a little while - that's a reality, and we all know it. ...But I don't go for those little femme girls. The women I've been with are pretty butch, and they have always been Lesbians."

-Lesbian comic Suzanne Westenhoefer on actress Anne Heche, Ellen DeGeneres' ex, to the Dallas Voice, July 29.

"You boys are adorable. I can't believe there are so many men who love me but don't want me."

-Actress Debbie Reynolds in an appearance at San Francisco's Castro Theater, as quoted by the San Francisco Bay Times, July 28.

"There has been zero negative effect. The only people who have been affected by the decision to allow same-sex marriages [in Massachusetts] are a few people who lived across the street from a couple of Lesbians and had to buy them wedding presents. That is clear to people in Massachusetts. No one - credibly - argues now that this has had a negative effect on anybody. We knew that would be the case."

-Gay U.S. Rep. Barney Frank, D-Mass., to the Seattle Gay News, July 29.

"If George W. Bush gets one more Supreme Court appointment, then a very important decision, the Lawrence decision, which says it was unconstitutional to prosecute two consenting men having sex in their bedroom - that would be overturned. John Roberts would overturn that. You have Bush talking about how Scalia - virulent homophobe - is such a good model for him."

-Gay U.S. Rep. Barney Frank, D-Mass., to the Seattle Gay News, July 29.

"I cannot tolerate an American president, ostensibly meant to be one of the most articulate and intellectually sophisticated leaders on the planet, mumbling his semicoherent support of the embarrassing nontheory of 'Intelligent Design,' to the detriment of about 300 years of confirmed science and 10 million years of common sense to the point where America's armies of dumbed-down Ritalin-drunk children look at him and sigh and secretly wish they could have a future devoid of such imbecilic thought but who realize, deep down, they are merely another doomed and fraught generation who will face an increasingly steep uphill battle, who will actually have to fight for fact and intellectual growth and spiritual progress against a rising tide of ignorance and religious hegemony and sanitized revisionist textbooks that insult their understanding and sucker punch their sexuality and bleed their minds dry."

-San Francisco Chronicle columnist Mark Morford, Aug. 10.

"Each year when the swans go in, the kids immediately come to us and say, 'Which one's Romeo, and which one's Juliet?' It's just like one of those fairy tales; why spoil it?"

-Boston Parks and Recreation Department spokeswoman Mary Hines in response to the revelation that a famous pair of swans at the Public Garden is a Lesbian couple, to the Boston Globe, Aug. 12. Department officials kept it a secret for several months after they figured it out, the Globe said.

"The history of Gay rights and marriage equity has always been two steps forward, one step back. Right now, there's forward momentum in Washington state, in New Jersey, California and New York. But at the same time, we're under increased attack. There is a tremendous amount of anti-Gay organizing going on, and in some states we're not going to be able to put up much of a fight."

-National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Executive Director Matt Foreman to the Seattle Post-Intelligencer, Aug. 13.

"We have sanitized and intellectualized our cause to the point of abstraction. Our argument is always about - you know, you get a better dental plan if you're married. Stuff like that. But marriage is just a code word. The fight is really: Are we equal humans in society or not? The right wing goes for the gut and we respond in this completely sterile way, talking about academic issues like the 1,038 rights that are denied us. It's kind of like John Kerry in the presidential race."

-National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Executive Director Matt Foreman to the Seattle Post-Intelligencer, Aug. 13.

"You better show up on my tour because if I don't have Gay men out front, I don't have a good show. This is my First Annual Farewell Tour. I got so jealous of Cher with all her farewell tours."

-Comic Joan Rivers to the London Gay newspaper The Pink Paper, Aug. 4.
International News

New Zealand's 122-member Parliament has five openly Gay members following the September elections, the Sydney Star Observer reported.

Labour MPs Tim Barnett and Chris Carter were re-elected, as was transsexual Labour MP Georgina Beyer. Labour MP Maryan Street and National Party MP Christopher Finlayson were elected for the first time.

"It will have some impact on Parliament as a whole because having an openly Gay MP in your party allows you to see and understand some of the issues that affect LGBT people," activist Calum Bennachie told the paper.


A Lesbian on a float at Johannesburg's Sept. 24 pride parade was pierced in the neck with a broken bottle hurled from a high-rise apartment building, the Cape Times reported.

"Blood spurted from her neck," said fellow participant Paula Coburn. "I ripped open some packets to get T-shirts out to try and stop the blood, then I phoned the paramedics. ... We were terrified. The blood was spurting out in big clots, and she looked as if she was having a fit."

The 18-year-old victim, who asked not to be identified, was stitched up and released from the hospital two days later.

"I'm much better now," she told the Cape Times. "But my right hand doesn't want to work. I am not going to change because these people have a problem with me. I'll be back next year."

The woman was riding on the Forum for the Empowerment of Women float which was the only float in the parade that carried a political message, the newspaper said.

The float was the target of homophobic abuse all along the route from Constitution Hill to the Heartland Gay village in the Braamfontein district, the report said.

Several thousand people - most of them white - took part in the 16th annual march. This year's theme was "The right to be, the freedom to express."


Spain's main opposition party, the Partido Popular, plans to file a Constitutional court case to attempt to undo the nation's legalization of same-sex marriage.

Party leader Mariano Rajoy believes the Spanish Constitution restricts marriage to opposite-sex pairings.

The move is opposed by the president of the party's Madrid region, Esperanza Aguirre, who said it would be perceived as Gay-bashing.

The Congress of Deputies legalized same-sex marriage June 30 in a 187-147 vote with four abstentions.

"Today, Spanish society is responding to a group of people who for years have been humiliated, whose rights have been ignored, their dignity offended, their identity denied and their freedom restricted," Prime Minister José Luis Rodríguez Zapatero said. "Today Spanish society grants them the respect they deserve, recognizes their rights, restores their dignity, affirms their identity and restores their liberty."

Full marriage also is available to same-sex couples in Belgium, Canada, the Netherlands and Massachusetts.


Italian Health Minister Francesco Storace ordered Milan's Policlinico hospital to stop banning Gays from donating blood Sept. 21, according to the ANSA news agency.

The facility was told to "eliminate all references to homosexuality as a screening factor." Storace called the ban "grave and offensive discrimination."

The situation came to light when Paolo Pedone, a staffer at the Gay magazine Pride, was turned away from the donation center "because young Gay males pose a high risk of having AIDS."


Moscow Gays and Lesbians are planning the city's first pride parade for May 2006, says Nikolai Alekseev of Project GayRussia.Ru.

The parade will occur in conjunction with the international conference of IDAHO (International Day Against Homophobia), scheduled for May 24-28, he said.

"Already some European politicians confirmed their participation including European Parliament deputy Michael Cashman," Alekseev said.


A Lesbian was elected to the parliament of the Australian state of New South Wales in late September.

Penny Sharpe, 34, was chosen by Parliament to fill a vacancy in the Legislative Council.

"Yes, I am Gay," Sharpe told reporters. "Yes I have two children. ... Beyond saying that I have been in a relationship for 12 years and I have two children, I am not saying anything. No other parliamentarians are asked about their families and how their children are conceived and I don't see why I have to. I have children to protect and I don't want to go into it."


Nepalese police have attacked Gays and metis (transgender males) again, assaulting a group in Kathmandu on Sept. 24, reported the British Gay-rights group OutRage! and Nepal's Gay Blue Diamond Society.

The attack began with plainclothes policemen sexually harassing several metis who were socializing outside the Himalayan Java Café. One policeman, Nava Raj Adhikari, allegedly stuck a lit cigarette onto the hand of one meti and demanded she go have sex with him. When she refused, he reportedly pulled her hair and slapped her.

Adhikari later returned with other cops who beat several metis with sticks and rocks, kicked them with heavy boots, then arrested at least one of them, the Gay organizations said.

The Blue Diamond Society said it asked the National Human Rights Commission and Human Rights Cell of the Nepal Police to investigate the incident, but they refused, claiming it was merely a fight between a "meti gang" and a "police gang."

"These assaults are a continuation of a long history of homophobic abuse and violence by sections of the Nepali police," said Peter Tatchell of OutRage!. "We are concerned that LGBT people in Nepal have no legal redress against state violence, and that they get little support from mainstream human rights groups and political parties."

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