Oct 7, 2005
Volume 33
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Dear SGN,

First let me say thank you again for all the work that you do. I'll bet you don't get told that enough!

My name is Abbie Goldberg and I'm a researcher of Gay/Lesbian families and also an activist in the community. I live in Northampton Massachusetts, and I'm on the psychology faculty at Clark University.

Four years ago I conducted a study of the transition to parenthood among Lesbian couples using AI. This was the first investigation of its kind. I have published several papers on this research, presented the research at conferences, and spoken to the media about my findings (all extremely positive, and enlightening for many). I have confidence that the slowly growing research base in this area WILL change public policy.

I am about to launch a new project exploring the transition to adoptive parenthood among Lesbian couples - an even harder project to do. Thus, I am asking for your help again, in reaching out to prospective participants. I will be looking for couples who are adopting their first child and will be interviewing them pre and post adoption. I will be doing this for the next two or three years (yes, I did just say that).

I'm hopeful that you will assist me with this, via postings in your newsletter and possibly on your website. As of right now, I have no federal funds (are we surprised) and am working off some university funds, until I apply for a grant. However, I can and will pay you if that is necessary, as I'm confident this would be a good investment. I know for a fact that several participants from my last study found me through you.

I appreciate all that you do, and hope that you will help!


Abbie E. Goldberg, Ph.D.

Assistant Professor

Department of Psychology

Clark University



Dear SGN,

A while ago I decided to create my own Web site so that other Gay men could get to know me without judging me based on my physical appearance. One of the reason's why I did this, is due to the fact that many Gay men are into look's first, heart second. What complicates matters for me is that I am a disabled Gay man.

Being disabled in a community where "body matters" and "looks are to kill," makes it extremely difficult to find a boyfriend. I know many Gay men that are reading this and are not disabled and don't have boyfriends either. Many single Gay men can relate to me being single, but not from a disabled standpoint. It's hard enough trying to find that "special someone" but it's even more difficult if you have something physically wrong with you.

So I decided to take action and advertise in your newspaper (Entertainment Section) to publicize my Web site ( and reach many Gay men in a unique way - outside of bars, social gatherings, events, etc. Hopefully some of your readers will visit my site and find me attractive inside and out and may want to date me.

I have not let my disability get in the way of becoming a successful business man. I have worked hard to be where I am today and am proud of my personal and professional accomplishments. Most of my friends don't even consider me disabled, because once they get to know me, they completely forget about my physical handicap. They say that I am a nice man and a "good catch" for someone who would be willing to take the time to get to know me as a person, rather than judging me based on my physical body alone.

Hey, I'm a dateable guy and very independent. No one will ever have to put on my pants or brush my teeth for me. I am self-sufficient and then some!! Heck, I have traveled around parts of the world alone and always seem to meet a special guy, but just not here in Seattle. I can't run a 100 meter dash in four seconds, but who can! Everyone has a disability in some way or another.

This is just a start. I'm going to utilize all my resources until I find a long lasting relationship with a Gay man! Look out Seattle, I hope to prove that men in our city will take a chance and date someone that is not a Greek god!


Tod Steward


Dear SGN,

"Inlaws & Outlaws" is back for another Seattle screening! Our premiere at this year's Seattle International Film Festival and Big Splashy Gala at Cinerama in July both played to sold out audiences and generated great reviews. So we're thrilled to have the film screen again here in our own backyard.

Next up: the Seattle Lesbian & Gay Film Festival. On Saturday, October 22nd at 4:00 pm, "Inlaws & Outlaws" will play for one show only at the Broadway Performance Hall, at 1625 Broadway on Capitol Hill.

Advance tickets are $9 and are available online, by phone or in person at Ticket Window (206/325.6500), located in the Broadway Market, Pike Place Market and the Meydenbauer Center

We encourage you to get your tickets early as seating is limited - but better yet, join Three Dollar Bill Cinema and support an excellent organization that provides a home to lots of indy films that wouldn't otherwise get seen. We're very proud to be part of the Festival and hope you'll consider giving it your support.

We look forward to seeing you at the Festival October 22nd! Thanks for all your support of "Inlaws & Outlaws".

Yours exactly,

Drew Emery

The True Stories Project


Dear SGN,

After being indicted on a charge of criminal corruption, Tom DeLay complained on FOX News about "politics at its sleaziest." He's mad at the Texas grand jury that issued the indictment. And he's furious at you and Democracy for America for the yearlong effort we've undertaken to expose the truth.

Now, a grand jury has indicted DeLay a second time on charges of money laundering. DeLay says we have, "drug [his] name through the mud." If that's what he calls denouncing corruption, so be it. I call it "taking our country back."

You and thousands of others have created the climate where Tom DeLay no longer goes unchallenged. But he isn't the only bad apple. A culture of cronyism is rotting the Republican Party. And because they're in charge of all three branches of government, it's destroying our democracy too.

You put Tom DeLay on the run. Over 90,000 DFA members demanded accountability by signing the "Stop Tom DeLay" petition last year. You helped run a television ad that gave him the biggest electoral scare of his career. You put up billboards in and around his district that called him out on his pay-to-play politics. And the grassroots activists of DFA in Houston hosted the "Save America without DeLay" picnic, drawing hundreds of local volunteers to campaign against DeLay - in his district - a full 17 months before next year's election.

Tom DeLay has said he's going to hold onto his power, even if he has to relinquish his title of majority leader. He'll do it too. Unless we stop him.

The Republican National Committee is implicated in the latest charges against DeLay. So you can be sure that they'll be on the attack again soon. That's how they try to change the debate. But we're not going to let them do it. Tom DeLay will be tried in a court of law. And the other Republicans in Washington will have their turn in front of the voters soon enough.

What Tom DeLay calls an "abomination," is your work exposing the truth. He calls it sleazy. I call it patriotic.

Thank you,

Tom Hughes

Executive Director

Democracy for America

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