Tom McCarthy loved and lived life like few others. As the youngest of six kids, he honed his humor and antics to thrive, given his place in the pecking order. Tom's mother died when he was 6.
These experiences forged Tom into the endearing and charming individual we loved. His childhood taught him how to overcome adversity. Tom was boisterous and irrepressible - traits which helped when he moved from New York to Seattle when he was 15 to live with his brother Brian and sister-in-law Lisa.
In his early years, Tom taught himself computers, building them for friends and cash. He was gregarious; an extrovert with a capital 'E.' He became a successful bartender, sought after by the trendy Seattle establishments looking to boost their popularity. He later moved into networking, as office connectivity grew explosively. He was soon leading crews. He led an all-volunteer effort to wire the Seattle public school (Coho/Noms) of his nieces, Madeline and Kathleen.
A quick study, Tom became proficient with network and transport technologies, and worked at MCI, WorldCom, and T-Mobile. He was highly regarded professionally, which led to promotions and a relocation. T-Mobile moved Tom and Larry to Hawaii in 2004. Tom enjoyed the beach, kite-surfing, skydiving, and Larry's ever-blooming flowers. He recently began watercolor classes and created beautiful paintings of Hawaiian flowers. Tom's health worsened, but he didn't complain or let it diminish his inimitable and positive outlook. He fought on until Monday, November 28, when he passed peacefully with Larry at his side.
Thomas J. McCarthy, a resident of Ewa Beach in Hawaii on the island of Oahu, was born in New York on November 2, 1968, to Edwin B. McCarthy and the late Joan (O'Shea) McCarthy. Tom is survived by his father; by his partner of 18 years, Larry Milanovich; and by siblings Brian, Maureen, Dennis, Kevin, and Sean. His 11 nieces and nephews will miss him dearly, and most would call Tom their 'funnest' uncle.
Please visit Tom's memorial website (www.respectance.com/TomMcCarthy) and read and/or share memories and photos.
A celebration of Tom's life will be held on Friday, December 30, 2011, at David and Ron's 'Big House' (2007 N.W. 61 St. Seattle) from 3 to 5 p.m. Please join us, all are welcome!
You can make a gift in Tom's honor to the Seattle Animal Shelter, 2061 15th Ave. W., Seattle, WA 98119-2798, (206) 386-PETS. Alternatively, make a tribute in Tom's name to the Hawaiian Humane Society, 2700 Waialae Avenue, Honolulu, HI, 96826, (808) 356-2213.
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