April 6, 2007
Volume 35
Issue 14
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Tour De Life by Beau Burriola
Taking stock in the fight for marriage
Taking stock in the fight for marriage It is almost three years since Massachusetts became the first state in the U.S. to legalize marriage for same sex couples. Contrary to the promises of doom and divine destruction, and indeed of the breakdown of the foundation of society itself, Gay marriages are proving to be every bit as boring as heterosexual ones.

It is four years since news articles began announcing the dawn of a new political era, where folks on the religious right promised to use their new power to clamp down on "values issues" at the expense of Gay families. New leaders, claiming to own the very definition of "moral values", began rolling out measures to codify into law definitions of marriage according to their own narrow view, with classes of people treated differently because of these "values".

It is five years now since the start of the Iraq war and it must seem terribly ironic to anti-Gay activists that issues like the war, the bigoted comments of General Peter Pace, the contradiction of the Vice President's Lesbian daughter, or the increasingly chaotic moral scandals of anti-Gay leaders are the very things which are bringing Gay political issues front and center. America, it seems, is having moral heartburn from its hastily-swallowed "moral values". Gay issues of all types are coming back to the forefront because of the hypocrisy of those who tried to keep them out: Gays able to serve in the military openly, more protection for Gay families, better protection for Gay workers, more demands for candidates to believe in equal protection for all people.

It is now more than six years since Gay marriage became legal in the Netherlands, five since Belgium, three since Canada, one since Spain and almost one since South Africa. The momentum of equality is picking up and, while America continues to wrestle with the idea, we find ourselves outpaced in the race by countries who value diversity more.

Over the years, however sidetracked we find ourselves from the road to equality, we can say without any doubts that complete marriage equality will be achieved. We can say this because history has proven that Americans will accept what is right with time - and not because it is always clear to them at the time, but rather because when faced with the bigoted, hateful alternative, it simply becomes crystal clear in contrast. Nobody has done more for the fight for Gay marriage in the last five years than those very people who have sought so hard to deny it.

As we take a look at the defeats and victories in the fight for marriage equality the last few years, it is easy to be pessimistic. It can seem that few victories stand out among years of defeats, but even with all of those defeats, we can look at the momentum of our victories and be hopeful. Marriage equality will happen because it is right - not because it claims to be right for just some people, but because it is right for all people without exception

& and 'without exception' is the very definition of equality.

Beau Burriola is a local writer grateful to be along to write down the journey as history unfolds. E-mail him at:
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