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Sex Talk by Simon Shepard |
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| Speaking of butts | ||
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by Simon Sheppard -
SGN A&E Writer Sure, shafts are swell - no doubt about it. But then there are butts, and let us sing in praise of the seat. Many straight men are notorious fanny-fanciers. As one observer puckishly points out, "Since women don't get woodies, het guys go for other protrusions - the famous 'T and A.'" But gay men aren't far behind in their admiration for the nether regions. Posteriors may be nothing more than contoured masses of flesh, fat, and muscle, but they set many a man's blood racing. "There's nothing I like more," says one such fellow, "than a beautifully formed bubble butt. It's like a perfect piece of sculpture." No wonder that gay men have traditionally favored such curve-caressing clothing as tight jeans, briefs, and Speedos. Though men's baggy fashions may come and go, many gay guys insist on showing off their butts - to the delight of other queer men. Some great buttocks are born, not made. But - unlike with penises - reshaping a butt is relatively easy. Men in search of shapelier bottoms will find that gym work or yoga will firm and tone. But all sorts of flesh-globes have their admirers. Many fans of boyish guys fancy smooth, slim booty. On the other hand, there are those who crave more than a handful. "The more butt, the better," says one bear into other big guys. "Give me those big ol' furry cheeks. I love having something to hang onto while I'm humping." There are also those with more catholic tastes. "I like all sorts of behinds," says one. "As long as they're not too saggy or pimply, that is. There's nothing better than watch a guy slowly get undressed with his back toward me. Seeing the area just below the waist become bare, then the top of the crack, the curve of the butt and the full cleft...man, it turns me on." The posterior's not just decorative, of course. The anal region is a major erogenous zone, and the surrounding area's a fleshy playground. "Butt-play," after all, means more than just hole-handling. Cheeks can be softly stroked, caressed, or kissed. Temperature play - from ice cubes to hot wax - will make tushies tingle. But bottoms can also be beaten. Luckily, the butt's very fleshiness allows a certain amount of abuse compared to most of the body. Masochists may enjoy getting their tushies whacked with paddles or floggers, or even bitten. When it comes to punishing bottoms' bottoms, though, nothing's more popular than a good old-fashioned spanking...especially one dished out with expertise. Explains one top-of-the-line butt-blisterer, "Some parts of the butt, especially the general vicinity of the hole, are more erotically responsive to a good slapping than others. And though I play with all sorts of guys, if a man has pale skin that reddens easily, a well-spanked butt is prettier than any sunset." When it comes to body-part preferences, there may well be a top/bottom dichotomy, with those who prefer to be pitchers more into manbutt than shaft-oriented catchers. As one voracious consumer of porn pictures points out, "Photo spreads seem to be divided into those that show lots of posterior, and those that don't. The more boyish, less butch the model, the likelier I'll be seeing plenty of butt. Which isn't to say it's not a thrill to see some masculine muscle-hunk naked on all fours with his bottom in full view." So whether you wax rhapsodic over rumps, or love to have your posterior played with, or both, remember - a butt can be the seat of bounteous sexual delight. Simon Sheppard is the author of Sex Parties 101, Kinkorama, and In Deep: Erotic Stories, and can be reached at SexTalk@qsyndicate.com. Visit Simon at www.simonsheppard.com. by Simon Sheppard - SGN Contributing Writer "It's not that I'm a puritan," says one Gay guy. "Actually, if I could use crystal methedrine safely, I would. The couple of times I tried it, I liked the way it made me feel. And I had sex till the sun came up. But the stuff really is poison, so I just won't do it anymore." He's not alone in enjoying a meth rush. The drug - also known as "crystal," "Chrissie," "Tina," and the like - has been enjoying widespread popularity in many segments of the Gay community. And that's a big problem. Says one expert in the field, "Crystal is very, very addictive. Meth users will usually insist that they're not hooked, that they can handle their drug use fine. But then they'll tell you they haven't slept in a week." Like other amphetamine-class drugs, methedrine is a central nervous system stimulant. Many speeders smoke vaporized crystal from glass pipes. Other users, not content with the rush they get from smoking, shoot up, or "slam," the drug. Meth not only keeps users wide awake, it also floods the brain with dopamine, a pleasure-producing chemical. Guys on crystal often feel sexier, more powerful, and less inhibited. So, while not strictly an aphrodisiac, meth is often used to add spark to sex sessions. There's even a term for that: "party and play" (or "PnP"). But once the dose of dopamine is depleted, erstwhile partiers "crash" into depression, and often use more meth in an effort to feel better. It's a vicious cycle that leads to heavy-duty dependency, not to mention such unlovely consequences as hostility, paranoia, and/or a loss of teeth. Not that everyone who tries meth likes it. Says one man, "It mostly made me nervous. And afterwards, I really felt like crap." Asks one drug-free dude, "Who wants to hook up with a tweaker who's sweating profusely, chatting incessantly, and has bad breath? And boys on meth often can't even get it up. Not attractive." One of meth's many deleterious effects is a lowering of inhibitions. While that can make a normally shy fellow feel like a sex machine, getting high too often leads to high-risk behavior - many new HIV infections are linked to party-and-play missteps. For hardcore crystal users - those fun-loving folks known as "speed freaks" - only getting clean will save them from a disastrous downward spiral, and the success rate for rehab is discouragingly low. But there are a few perhaps-fortunate fellows who do manage to use crystal every once in a while and not get hooked. For them (as well as anyone else who uses intoxicants), a bit of "harm reduction" is in order. Make sure there are condoms and lube handy, even if screwing isn't planned. Talk to your play partner about safety and limits _before_ the drugs come out. Drink plenty of water. And for heaven's sake, once you're done playing, get enough sleep! Still, there are those who bridle at the notion of harm reduction. Says one man in his 50s, "I've seen a lot in my life: quaaludes, cocaine, the onset of AIDS. So it's really upsetting to hear about all these young men addicted to speed barebacking while high, and getting infected with HIV. It's like watching a car crash in slow motion, and though I think of myself as tolerant of other people's foibles, I've had enough. At least when you do stupid stuff on booze, you often pass out before things get too serious. Tweakers, though, have hours and hours to get themselves in trouble. Using meth is just plain wrong. Period." In a perfect world, of course, everything that made us feel great would be good for us, too. But it's not a perfect world. Not even close. So please - be careful out there. Simon Sheppard is the author of Sex Parties 101, Kinkorama, and In Deep: Erotic Stories, and can be reached at SexTalk@qsyndicate.com. Visit Simon at www.simonsheppard.com. |
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